When is the best time to ask for someone's phone number if your online relationship seems to be going well? I made the mistake far too many times in asking apparently too soon: one guy I asked about six months into our "relationship" (he balked); the second I asked about one month into the "relationship" (he dropped all contact with me, refuses to reply back to messages, etc.)
So ok what am I doing wrong this time? Hey at least I'm asking instead of saying "I give up, I'm going straight, I'm going to listen to Johnny Cash and buy a double-wide"
Yeah, because all of us straight people listen to Johnny Cash & live in trailers!!!
I think, (and I'm only guessing here) that people are so much more at ease online and the thought of actually having to talk or be in a real relationship scares some people. I know I can say much more to a person in writing than I can in person or on the phone. Sometimes that can be a good thing, but sometimes it can be very bad.
That doesn't answer your question, but it's my opinion!!
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Grace is the acceptance of that which is rejected. ~Paul Tillich
Have you ever stopped to think that these people who bailed out on you might have lied to you from the beginning and didn't want to tell the truth about who they really are?
It may have nothing to do with you. It's probably all them.
Just a thought.
I don't think it matters when you ask them for their number. In my opinion, if it's going well, then proceed to the next level and ask.
Steve
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Lamentation 3:24 The Lord is all I have, and so in him I put my hope.
Or you could do the reverse, instead of asking for thier number, offer your number and see how things go.....
Just a thought.
(on a personal note, John and I swapped numbers after 2 weeks.........and now look at where we're at.......)
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-- Edited by 24 fan tim at 10:46, 2006-11-20
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"Have you ever stopped to think that these people who bailed out on you might have lied to you from the beginning and didn't want to tell the truth about who they really are? "
Very true!
Dan and I didn't swap until like 3 years in the relationship. And then I've met people before and it was only like a week.. it all depends on the other person and your relationship with them.
After seeing "Dateline" this past week I agree with Amy. You never know if the person on the other end is for real. They may just be getting their jollies by egging you on but get to the nity grity and they're gone.
Or you could do the reverse, instead of asking for thier number, offer your number and see how things go.....
Just a thought.
(on a personal note, John and I swapped numbers after 2 weeks.........and now look at where we're at.......)
had to fix a typo
-- Edited by 24 fan tim at 10:46, 2006-11-20
I did that with someone I had talked to for almost a year, and he literally freaked out and stopped speaking with me when I gave him MY number! That happened during the time I first posted my "I'm going str8, this gay crap is for the birds" post a while ago on here
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