my Dad's Health concern

TaterHead · Defender of Truth, Justice and the American GAY!

RE: my Dad's Health concern

aircargoman · Senior Member

Jay:

During the last month of my mom's life, we dealt with mom's not eating, dementia and were planning the hospice activities when she returned home. I can relate to how stressful all this is on you and your mom and family. My prayers for you during this time for healing and strength.

Best Regards
Dave

-- Edited by aircargoman at 21:48, 2006-09-13

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

RE: Dad's Health concern

Mama Lisa · Thu Sep 14 6:46 AM, 2006

RE: my Dad's Health concern

Darrel · Guru

I'm praying for him and you and your family!

*big hugs*
Darrel

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

My Dad started to eat small meals over the weekend, just maybe he's avoided the feeding tube......this time.

Sadly, another serious downturn he can not increase eating beyond a certain level and the PAIN has increased to the point that his doctor has now point him on a drops of liquid morphine every 4- 6 hours. His weight is now down to 110 lbs from 152 - 155 llbs prior to lung cancer & treatment.

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Thurs. afternoon UPDATE
Bone scan & CT Scan of the brain has been ordered (ASAP) for tomorrow morning at 10 AM, one of my Dad's doctors' is expressing real concern because of the increase in his PAIN.

Please pray for my Father, I do not know how much more his body is to endure. Also keep my Mom and I in prayer too.....this is getting so difficult to watch each day now-he should be getting better and he is not.

-- Edited by JAYofFL at 13:43, 2006-09-21

Mama Lisa · Thu Sep 21 3:20 PM, 2006

Jay, I'm so sorry you are having to watch your dad suffer. I'm continuing to pray for you all.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

Thurs. Evening Update:

Dad has been put in the hospital -he will have the above scans and others done while there, also will be fed via IV.

Mama Lisa · Fri Sep 22 6:57 AM, 2006

Maybe at this time, the hospital is the best place for him. Be an advocate for him! Make sure they take very special care of him!

We are here if you need us!!

TaterHead · Defender of Truth, Justice and the American GAY!

Dear Blessed Father,

Jay's dad is in a lot of hurt and pain. Help deliver him from this and make him well once again. Also, please be with Jay and his mom as they try to take care of him AND themselves. Please bless them with Your peace and comfort. Let them see Your hand in all of this. Show them that while they may feel like their all alone in having to go through this...they're not, for YOU are there and that You are taking good care of ALL of them.

For in Jesus' name, I pray. Amen.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

JAYofFL wrote:

Thurs. Evening Update:

Dad has been put in the hospital -he will have the above scans and others done while there, also will be fed via IV.

FOLLOW-UP to above:

1.} Drs. found a extremely "distended bladder" FULL, I think thats the terminology they got over 2 litres out within a few minutes after a catheter was inserted.
2.} a blood clot was found in one of his lungs during an MRI of the Chest .
3.} they have him in the Pallative Care area to more closely monitor him, and keep as PAIN Free as possible.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

a BIG THANK YOU and GOD BLESS YOU to each and Everyone of You who continue to keep My Father, my Mom & I in prayer over the past few months.
Your prayers have kept me so strong at times,even when I am physically drained by my own health issues.

JAY

ding72 · Senior Member

Continuing to keep you in my prayers...please continue to keep us updated.

24 fan tim · Live long and prosper.

You and your family remain in my prayers.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

My Father's condition has been getting worse over the last 2 days, and his Doctors say he is too weak to attempt surgical insertation of the stomach feeding tube.
-the blood clots found in one of his lungs, along with some other failing signs indicated "Poor...to short term terminal status."

Mom & I decided together that he would not want to be in more PAIN and to continue to suffer. On the advice of his doctors- he has been placed in the hospital's Hospice unit--where he is getting extra SPECIAL care.

Mom & I face the coming days together, as we only have each other. Continue to pray for us ALL

Mama Lisa · Mon Sep 25 9:07 AM, 2006

I'm so sorry, Jay. I understand hospice does a wonderful job.

We are all continuing to pray for him, and your mom & you. Lean on us all you need to.

TaterHead · Defender of Truth, Justice and the American GAY!

Dearest Jay,

I am SO sorry to hear about your dad. Five years ago this very month, the doctors told me about my daddy's failing health, and that it wouldn't be too long before he would finally leave this world because of the infection inside of him. I have no idea how many days I cried and prayed to God for a miracle. Finally, the choice was made to let my daddy's defibrilator be turned off, so he wouldn't have to suffer anymore. It was the hardest thing in the world having to do...but we knew that it was what he would have wanted: he said before he had the operation that he didn't want to spend anymore time in suffering. We made the decision in peace. And my daddy went home to be with Jesus, where I know he hasn't been sufferring since.

It is SO HARD to make the decision that you and your mom are having to make. You feel like you are giving up hope on him while, at the same time, you are still holding on to hope for ANY kind of an "eleventh-hour miracle" to happen and this whole nightmare will go away with your daddy getting better. You and your mom should know that your daddy loves you both UNCONDITIONALLY, and he doesn't have any bad feelings toward you for putting him in the hospital's hospice. He knows that you two have done all that you can do, and that it's all up to God now.

He just wants you to know that he loves you, and that if...IF...it is his time to leave this world, that he is just "going on ahead", making reservations for the time when you and your mom will be with him in heaven. So don't be afraid. Just know that he is in the arms of Jesus.

Dear Heavenly Father,

My friend Jay is having to undergo one of the hardest trials that a man can go through: the slow loss of his father. Let him know that, no matter what the outcome of this sickness is...YOU ARE HERE FOR THEM. And that You will give them all the strength and peace and grace to get through all of this. Send Your angels of mercy to come underneath each person involved, and to bless them with guidance to help them to come together in this one last time before it is time for his father to go. And if it is Your will for him to leave, then show Jay that YOU are a "father to the fatherless", just as You became a father to me when I lost mine. It still hurts, Lord, but I know that my daddy is with You, where the sickness and depression that hounded him on earth can no longer reach him; that he is now experiencing the joy that only comes from seeing You face to face. Give Jay and his momma whatever they need to get through this. Remind them that Your hand is still upon them...and always will be.

For in Jesus' name, I pray. Amen.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

JAYofFL wrote:

Mom & I decided together that he would not want to be in more PAIN and to continue to suffer. On the advice of his doctors- he has been placed in the hospital's Hospice unit--where he is getting extra SPECIAL care.

BLESSING # 2

If all goes as the Hospice Doctor & nurses hope, Mom and I may be able to bring Dad home on Saturday. He will still be under their care...of course, but they believe patients do "Best" at home. They will provide Everything he will need to be here at home with us.

Continue to pray for us ALL, my Father and Mom & myself as we face the coming days together, as we only have each other.

aircargoman · Senior Member

Prayers of peace for you, Healing your dad and mom during this trying time.

Dave

-- Edited by aircargoman at 23:43, 2006-09-28

24 fan tim · Live long and prosper.

You are definitely in my prayers. I have great respect for the Home Hospice nurses. I did some part-time work as a Hopice Home nurse for about a year and a half and my hat is off to those who make that their full time career. You won't find more caring people on the face of the earth. I sincerely hope that you get to bring your dad home. You will have a host of support from the Hospice nursing staff.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

JAYofFL wrote:

If all goes as the Hospice Doctor & nurses hope, Mom and I may be able to bring Dad home on Saturday. He will still be under their care...of course, but they believe patients do "Best" at home. They will provide Everything he will need to be here at home with us.

because of some minor setbacks and such, not till Monday.

He may require "continous care" once he does come home also. Mom & I will be glad to have him home for whatever time God sees in his plan.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

Mom and I were able to bring Dad home 1 week ago today. He will still be under the care of hospice....as needed, of course. They will provide Everything he will need to be here at home with us.
They believe patients do Best at home and that is the case with my Dad, he is on his feet walking with assistance of a walker and he is also eating again{very small amounts, but any is better than NOTHING} and BEST of all he is home with the family pets.

Continue to keep him, my Mother and I in your prayers during this time.

JAY

Mama Lisa · Mon Oct 9 3:28 PM, 2006

Jay,

I'm so glad you've been able to spend this time with your dad. I'm continuing to pray for you all!

Lisa

ding72 · Senior Member

Continuing to pray Jay....I am so glad he is able to come home and be in the comfort of his own home.

TaterHead · Defender of Truth, Justice and the American GAY!

Dearest Jay,

May the Lord use this time with your daddy to make lasting, loving moments that will be a blessing to BOTH of you now, and on throughout eternity.

I wish you peace in this time of caring. May God be with you.

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

UPDATE

Dad has been home for nearly 4 weeks, and to say he is doing " amazingly - well" under the circumstances...would be an understatement. He is now eating medium-sized, but proper meals again and SNACKS too. He's walking on his own power, and his primary care Doctor was AMAZED when she saw him a little over 1 week ago.

I have no clue just what the future holds--given the grim diagnosis we were at the hospital, but for now.....Dad is doing A- OK

a THANK YOU to ALL of you for your prayers.

JAY

TaterHead · Defender of Truth, Justice and the American GAY!

This is GREAT NEWS!!! YAHOO!!! I am so happy to hear that your dad is improving and getting better. I hope and that he gets a full healing from all of this sickness.

THANK YOU JESUS!!! You have been so good!!!

JAYofFL · Veteran Member

UPDATE

My Dad has been home for just a little over 2 months now and considering how serious his condition was at the end of September....compared to now.
He's doing rather amazing.

He is eating very well now and is just 10- 12 lbs. < under his "normal" weight.

Our little family of 3 certainly had much to be THANKful for at THANKSGIVING and
We hope that Christmas can be just as M ER R Y ,however I do have one prayer request: one of my Dad's Doctor's ordered a full body CT scan to "recheck" the status of his cancer - if there is any left? or to see if perhaps it has spread elsewhere?
Results appointment is next Tuesday Dec. 12th; please keep my Dad, Mom and myself in your prayers as we wait for the results and for when they are received.

JAY from FLORIDA

Mama Lisa · Thu Dec 7 6:17 AM, 2006

Jay,

Thank you so much for updating us. I've been thinking about you & your dad a lot these days. I'm so glad he's is doing better. Your family will continue to be in my prayers!!

24 fan tim · Live long and prosper.

I am so glad to hear that your dad is doing so well. May he continue to improve and enjoy the rest of the holiday season!!!