How soon is too soon to say, "I love you?" 1 week? 3 weeks? 3 months? 2 years? 2 hours?
When can you say it, and MEAN that you want to spend your life with this person? When do you committ? I just don't know if this is the right person--but, how do I tell? There are many, many things I want to get done in my life. Yes, eventually, I want to get 'married' (bleah); however, when the time comes, it'll come. I just don't want to rush things. And, I really don't want it to be a relationship built completely off of carnal attraction. Granted men are a lot more physically motivated than women are....all in all, I want there to be a mixture of physical, emotional, and spiritual concepts....ya know?
Ok. What are your thoughts? When is it too soon to say, "I love you?" Or is there a time limit? Because, he's telling me "I love you..." and it frightens me. Not because I don't like him...but, because I DO like him. I just want to be sure that this is it. And, that he's everything that I want--and that there can't be something better out there in the world--even though in the back of my mind I keep on thinking that there is--and is that being too greedy?
Or is that being mean? I dunno. But, so, what do ya think? Thanks!!!!
*hugs* Darrel
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That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
All that I can say is just pray about it, put it into God's hands and then follow your heart. That is really all that ANYONE can do when they are in a situation like this. Just be yourself. If he loves you for you, then there is nothing that can go wrong. If your heart gets broken, then remember that the good Lord has someone ready for you, and move on with His love healing your wounded heart and spirit.
Express your love when you know that you love someone. You will know when that time is. As Steve said, there is no definite timeframe for this to happen. Each person falls in love at different speeds.
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Be yourself!!! Don't try to fit into someone else's mold, you won't fit!!! And that just leads to utter misery!!! Live life to it's fullest in Christ's love every day!!!
I am a hopeless romantic, and believe that God placed someone in my life. I told him I love him and want a committed relationship and to live with him. (Told him yesterday). I also want a holy union late this year or early next. You have to be comfortable with your feelings, and that the feelings are mutual. I hope it all works for you as well.
Like many of the others have said, I think you should say it whenever you feel it. And if you're not sure, don't say it yet. Give yourself as much time as you need.
Darrel: I am a hopeless romantic, and believe that God placed someone in my life. I told him I love him and want a committed relationship and to live with him. (Told him yesterday). I also want a holy union late this year or early next. You have to be comfortable with your feelings, and that the feelings are mutual. I hope it all works for you as well. Best Regards Dave
Dave, good for you! I'm happy to hear it, congrats! :)
