There is this guy at my church, Ben, very nice, very friendly, very cute (of course)..
For the past nearly 2 years that I've known him, he and I have hung out periodically, and he has not once ever mentioned any interest in any girl at church nor has he ever had a girlfriend in his life (at least never telling me)..
Needless to mention the gaydar has been monitoring his moves and generating reports of possible gayishness..
Well last night something really interesting happened and I need confirmation on this one
I went to his apartment last night to watch part of a series of DVDs on the Civil War (we've been doing that off and on now for nearly a year - we're slow), and he treated me to Thai (my favorite cuisine and he knows it). I just happened to mention about this Bible study that takes place at this place called Brickskellar (multi-beer restaurant/"pub" in DC) and he mentioned he's been there (Brickskellar is in the heart of DC's gay district, Dupont Circle). Hmm.. well, we go off to pick up our Thai dinners at this place in Crystal City (which is a good 10 - 15 min drive from where he lives in Ballston area of Arlington VA), which I thought was strange because Ballston also has plenty of Thai places as well. The Thai place he had picked out, as we arrived, turns out to be next door to one of the gayest clubs in the area, Freddie's!
I'm putting all this together and I'm thinking "Oh hmmm..." or I'm drawing conclusions yet again.
I think that you should pray about this one first...my "gaydar" has gotten me into a LOT of trouble in the past. He might just happen to be very accepting of homosexuals and genuine likes this Thai place next to Freddie's (is this that the place where Congressman Barney Frank liked to go to when he was in the closet?). But you are right...this IS a very interesting coincidence. Maybe you should ask him right out about his sexuality when you see him next. If he knows that you're gay, and you're an okay kind of friend to him, he might just come out too!
I recently was wondering about our new organist, and since we had a gathering planned and wanted to invite him, I emailed him! (We ended up having to cancel the gathering. ) I told him in the email that I would either offend him or make him feel safe, but that my son is gay, we are having a gathering of some gay friends, and wanted to invite him... It took him a long time to answer, but I was right. He had been fired from another church at one time because of his sexuality, so he was very protective of that information. But now we have a very special connection with him.
So my advice is just ask him.
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Grace is the acceptance of that which is rejected. ~Paul Tillich
I talked to an old gay christian friend that some of us know, who told me it'd be best to pray and see, perhaps when it's right to ask him outright later.
It doesn't help that he's so cute.. but scared of goths
) I told him in the email that I would either offend him or make him feel safe, but that my son is gay, we are having a gathering of some gay friends, and wanted to invite him... It took him a long time to answer, but I was right. He had been fired from another church at one time because of his sexuality, so he was very protective of that information. But now we have a very special connection with him.
